Are you Overindulging in Unhelpful Ways?
Moderation is the key to a healthier, happier, and balanced life. If you are overindulging in unhelpful ways, this could be a sign that you are feeling unhappy and unfulfilled.
There are many gains from healthy moderation, I know this from personal experience. I was that person who couldn’t go to sleep without doing my evening workout. And when it came to cake, I couldn’t have just one slice of cake; I would continue eating it until the whole cake was gone. And don’t get me started on the wine; it was never going to be just one glass of wine when I opened a bottle. I was one of those people trapped between two worlds of excess and deprivation. However, what I have learnt since then is through moderation, I started to live a healthier, happier, and balanced life.
Electronics, clothes, indulgent foods; our days are filled with ever-increasing forms of consumption. Perhaps we do it to cope with busyness or numb ourselves from the stress and anxiety of life. Maybe we are enticed by the images that surround us from advertising and social media. But if we don’t challenge these influences and impulses, we end up overeating, over-drinking, over-exercising, binge-watching or buying things we don’t really need.
We can adopt a new way to living life with a healthy approach to moderation, based on a deep sense of self-awareness. This begins by acknowledging our excesses and then mindfully recognising the difference between ‘need’ and ‘want’.
Changing bad habits
So here is the key, listen carefully – once we recognise ‘why’ and ‘how’ we overconsume, we can focus on what we will gain rather than what we will lose by changing our habits. With this new mindset, moderation isn’t a constraint on our wishes and pleasures. But rather a source of balance, health, and peace.
Of course, change takes time and effort, so it’s important to face your excesses with patience and compassion, especially if we slip up, which we all do from time to time. So, the next time you have the urge to watch, shop or feast, stop for a moment and ask – is this a need? Or a want?
Imagine the peace of mind you’ll gain if you invest your afternoon in an activity that’s truly meaningful. Consider the money you’ll save when your mental monthly budget prioritises needs over indulgences. Think of the extra space you’ll have in your home without clutter.
Mindful moderation helps us create contentment, as we reap the benefits of increased health, savings and wisdom.
Everything in this world is good when enjoyed in small doses, even if the only apparent benefit is the joy that it brings and nothing else. So, if you’re going to indulge in something, make sure you do it with glee and not guilt. This is very important for your mental state. The prolonged time of deprivation is a sure way to feel horrible and can even lead to overindulgence in the future.
A great way to find more happiness in your life is with my 3 Golden Gifts and Deeper Wisdom:
Newsflash! Despite what you’ve been taught, you have no needs except for food, water, shelter, and air. Think about it. No one has died from failing to get what he or she wants, and that includes success of any kind, affection from whoever, approval, and, yes, even an iPhone. Sure, there is disappointment, frustration, or sadness when we don’t get what we want. But devastation only results when we think we need or must have and can’t live without what we want.
Golden Gifts
1. Inventory your life
Figure out what you have concluded are your ‘must haves’, ‘have to haves’, and ‘needs’. Write a list for each. Take your time with this and keep writing until you feel you draw a blank.
Deeper Wisdom:
Pay special attention to:
- situations where you think you absolutely must do well and/or not fail.
- people whose love and approval you’ve determined you need.
- things and conditions you believe you must possess.
2. Find the deeper meaning
Take your 3 lists above, one at a time, and remind yourself that, while desired, they are not needed.
Deeper Wisdom:
Run your conclusions through these statements:
- your life will not end without them.
- there are other things in your life that provide pleasure besides them.
- they are replaceable.
- your worth does not equal them.
3. Mind your language
Make a habit of not using any of the need words or phrases “need,” “got to,” “have to,” “must,” and “should.”
Deeper Wisdom:
Really observe yourself with the intention to change your old habits and stop yourself, even in mid-sentence. Instead, use words such as “want,” “like to,” “desire,” “hope for,” “prefer,” and “it would be better if.” Our language is very powerful and is feedback for our thoughts, processes and actions.
So, let’s summarise those Golden Gifts again:
- Inventory your life
- Find the deeper meaning
- Mind your language
It is your job and your responsibility to create as much happiness for yourself as you possibly can. And this requires the following two things of you:
- To be aware of what brings you happiness, allowing yourself to want something with all your heart and strive mightily to bring it into reality.
- While fully wanting what you want, never ever convince yourself that it is life and death to have it.
By living both these principles, you give yourself the best chance of giving yourself the pleasures you want without ever experiencing devastation should you fail.
Take care to pay attention to what you feel you need in your life. Seeking support from a coach could be the thing you do differently to finally find the peace you’ve been seeking.
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