What Do You Do When You Feel Empty Inside?
This week, I’m going to talk about when you are feeling lost and empty inside in more detail. I will also share 3 golden nuggets so you can improve your life straightaway:
- Learn about your false beliefs
- Forgive yourself
- Invest in your most fulfilling relationships
What are the signs you are living an empty life?
You might not have noticed it before, but feelings of emptiness can cause you to go through life in autopilot mode.
You wake up, brush your teeth, wash your face, and do what you need to do without really thinking about these things because they are so familiar to you.
You numb out your senses; you don’t hear, see or smell what’s going on around you and it’s like you’re somehow disconnected to reality.
You are no longer a human; you are now a robotic human being, incapable of feeling the sensation of happiness anymore.
You might ask yourself, “What has my life become?” and say, “I didn’t sign up for a life like this, only to live a soulless existence!”
What causes our feelings of emptiness?
There are many reasons why we feel empty and lost inside. Many of us experience life-changing moments, but we are not ready to face these events.
You could be manifesting inner emptiness and feeling lost inside for many different reasons:
- “I’m struggling to cope after losing a loved one.”
- “I hate my job and have no passion for it whatsoever.”
- “I’m not getting enough human contact, and my relationships with friends and family aren’t great.”
- “My partner doesn’t love me anymore.”
- “I feel so alone and lonely.”
And so many more….
The main reason for all of these problems is a lack of love! I don’t just mean romantic love, because love can come in so many different ways.
You have to love your work, if you want to become more passionate about it.
You have to love your significant other, if you want to feel more intimate and connected to them.
You have to love yourself, if you want to get rid of these inner feeling of emptiness.
“Love is universal. An energy. A contagious force. A gift.”
What can you do when you experience inner feelings of emptiness?
A good place to start is to work through these three steps:
- Examine gently why you are feeling what you are feeling. Choose your reasons based on your recent experience and try to improve your situation slowly.
- Give yourself enough self-care and self-love: this might be what you need the most.
- Give everyone around you love. And try to give anything that you are capable of giving, for the improvement of another person’s life.
Golden Nuggets
It Sounds so easy to tell someone to “Love yourself” or to tell yourself for that matter. So how do you do love yourself? In its simplest form, loving yourself comes down to your actions. Learn and practice these steps to gradually start loving yourself more every day:
- Learn about your false beliefs Take a compassionate approach and explore your beliefs and behaviours to see what is happening with a person or situation that may be causing you ill-feeling or pain. Once you understand what you’re thinking or doing that’s causing these feelings, this powerful, deeper insight will lead to a positive change.
My Top Tip
Sit in a quiet space and take some deep breaths. Close your eyes, this helps you to go inside. Ask your feeling self, your inner child:
“What am I thinking or doing that’s causing the painful feelings of anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, jealously, anger, loneliness, or emptiness?”
Allow the answer to come from inside, from your intuition and your feelings.
2. Forgive Yourself
One common barrier to self-love is that we all have some things in our past that we haven’t forgiven ourselves for.
Maybe we feel bad about how we treated an ex-partner or friend. Or we feel like we were too short with a family member, arising from a place of frustration or tiredness. Or maybe we have a whole stretch of months, or even years, in our lives that we haven’t forgiven ourselves for.
My Top Tip
You can journal it out, meditate on your thoughts, or you can speak it out loud, either to yourself or to the people that you feel that you wronged, when appropriate.
Having a mantra along the lines of “Even though ______ happened, I deeply and completely forgive myself for my actions. I did the best I could at the time, I couldn’t have known any better, and I will commit to acting differently in the future. I forgive myself entirely.”
3. Invest in your most fulfilling relationships
Spending time around your favourite people is good for you. But the real magic comes from investing your love into others with acts of kindness and quality time together; this flows back to funnel love into your relationship with yourself.
You’re essentially signalling to your heart, gut and inner child that “Yes, I care about you enough to put love into the places that I deem to be worthy of my time, attention, and love.” These are my core values, these are my core favourite people, and I will honour and respect all of them through my actions.
Top Tip:
Enforce real boundaries in your life, so that you carve out time for the things that matter the most to you.
Say ‘no’ to people you don’t like spending time with. Say ‘no’ to work projects, paths or opportunities that don’t serve you and your core values. Spend time with your favourite people on a regular basis. Carve out time in your calendar for fun, lightness, and playfulness.
The more you honour yourself in how you spend your time, the more your inner child will feel seen, understood, and loved.
So, let’s summarise those golden nuggets again:
1. Learn about your false beliefs
2. Forgive yourself
3. Invest in your most fulfilling relationships
As always, my advice is to get started with whichever step seems either the easiest to you, or the most challenging, depending on where you are in your journey and what you’re looking to work on.
Start with just one step and focus on incorporating it into your life. And, when you feel like you have a solid handle on integrating that habit, start work on adding another. By doing this work you will be rewarded by living a happier and more fulfilled life.
“Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come.”
If you have found this article useful, then please share with anyone you know who would also benefit to help them along their journey in life.
Thank you for joining me and I look forward to seeing you again for next week’s Pura Vida Your Life Happenings, for insight, inspiration and more golden nuggets to help you live a happier and fulfilled life.
Pura Vida Your Life – it all starts with you 🧡💙💛
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